Far From the Tree
Robin Benway
Release date: October 3, 2017
Rating 5/5
The First Line:
Grace hasn’t really thought too much about homecoming.
The Plot:
Despite growing up with loving adopted parents, Grace decides to go on a hunt for her birth mom after she herself gives up her newborn daughter. Her search leads her to a younger half sister Maya, the only dark haired child in a family of redheads, and their older half brother Joaquin who has bounced from foster home to foster home.
Three siblings, all with different upbringings, learn about each other and themselves while they wonder what happened to woman who had abandoned them as children.
The Characters:
Far From the Tree is told from all three perspectives in alternating chapters. The first sibling we meet is Grace who had been a model student – until the day she found out she was pregnant. Giving up her daughter was one of the hardest things she had to do, and even though her parents are supportive, she withdraws from them, isolating herself, until she meets a new boy named Rafe. Grace is very secretive and while it’s easy to be frustrated with the way she withholds information from her family, I can’t imagine the pain of giving up a child when you’re barely more than a child yourself. That being said, Grace’s story might be the easiest to handle because of all the support she receives (plus Rafe is the absolute best and made me laugh multiple times).
Maya, the youngest, is next. Her parents adopted her shortly before finding out that they had naturally conceived, so she’s grown up with a younger sister. Maya’s family is outwardly perfect – they practically threw her a party when she came out – but her parents fight all the time and Maya is sometimes jealous of the way her sister Lauren fits in while she’s always felt like the outsider. Maya is the boisterous sibling – she talks a lot when she’s nervous and bosses the other two around – but her development is fascinating to watch as she goes from being an older sibling to being the youngest. I was worried I wouldn’t like Maya because she had such a huge personality, but she won me over once I realized that underneath the loud exterior, she was a sweet, insecure ball of mush.
Joaquin’s story was the most heartbreaking and I think his arc was my favourite. Abandoned by his mother at a young age and bounced around in the foster care system for most of his life, Joaquin has given up the hope of being adopted and constantly distances himself from the people who do care. But his current “parents”, Mark and Linda, are different – they WANT Joaquin but he’s too scared to let them in all the way. Joaquin is the most broken of the siblings – lacking the structured upbringing they both received, he finds it hard to connect with his newfound sisters, wanting to shield them from the details of his difficult life.
The Writing:
I may be biased because Robin Benway is one of my favourite contemporary YA authors (her debut novel, Audrey, Wait! is one of my most favourite books of all time) and so this was one of my most anticipated reads of the year. But I truly think that Far From The Tree deserves all the awards buzz and accolades that it’s been receiving since it came out at the beginning of October (like being nominated for the National Book Award). Benway’s writing is at its best here: the siblings’ encounters feel real as they struggle to find a balance between being themselves and impressing their newfound family. Their individual family lives are equally emotional – less than twenty pages in, I knew Benway was going to make me cry (and she did).
My sister (after I forced the book into her hands, weeping “READ IT PLEASE”) suggested that Far From the Tree has an almost Wizard Of Oz-esque story line: all three are looking for pieces of themselves that will ultimately lead them “home” – whether “home” is their birth mother or each other. Joaquin needs to learn how to let people into his heart, Grace needs the courage to live after giving up her baby, and Maya needs to get out of her head (or brain) when it comes to her adopted family. I don’t know if that was Benway’s intention, but it actually makes a lot of sense.
Some reviews suggest that maybe it was too dramatic, and perhaps things worked out a little too nicely, but I think – sadly – that there are people who experience the same things as Joaquin, Grace, and Maya – and I, for one, am glad a lot of their issues were resolved at the end. (I’m all for unhappy endings once in a while, but I think, if something happened to any of those three precious children, it would have broken me). In the Acknowledgements, Benway calls out the people who shared their stories with her, so I have no doubt that this was heavily researched, allowing her to capture the real emotions and thoughts of people in similar situations.
The Bottom Line:
I can’t recommend this one enough! Just bring tissues with you, and avoid reading it on the subway after a long day because then yeah, you will 100% tear up and have to blink quickly so that people don’t give you a wary look. Joaquin, Grace, and Maya feel so real that their experiences will poke you right in the heart and leave you wishing you could just gather them up and protect them from the world.
The Soundtrack:
Aesthetically, Neck Deep’s “In Bloom” would work better (you get it? In BLOOM and Far From the TREE?), but immediately after reading this, the song I associated with it was “19 Seventy Sumthin'” (which actually uses a tree comparison in the chorus).
Like Far From the Tree, “19 Seventy Sumthin'” is about family – and, like the book, it has some lighthearted moments, but also has the ability to make me sob EVERY TIME as it tells the story of a relationship (based on singer Ben Barlow’s parents) that ended abruptly when one of them had a heart attack. I’m literally tearing up as I write this (ask my sister about that time I started crying into my cider because I insisted on listening to it even though I knew what it would do to me), so you should probably just listen to it for yourself…but maybe bring one of those tissues you used while reading the book (if you have any left) and don’t say I didn’t warn you.
And we will hold you when you cry
‘Cause that’s what family does